2025 Bible Bowl

The 2025 Bible Bowl will be March 1st – March 2nd and will be held in Centerville, Ohio, near Dayton. The book of Luke, chapters 1-24, are the study material for the competition. The teams will include younger and older teams with grades 3-12 included. If you are interested, please see Merna.

Where Have All the Good Men Gone?

If you grew up in the 80s, the opening lines from Bonnie Tyler’s song “Holding Out for a Hero,” written for the movie Footloose, can be heard clear as a bell:

Where have all the good men gone

And where are all the gods?

Where's the streetwise Hercules

To fight the rising odds?

The question, “Where have all the good men gone?” is a common one asked among females of all ages.  Women of all ages struggle to find men who are serious about life, serious about their values, and have a clear direction and focus.  What is going on?  It would take more than a bulletin article to give a full answer to the above question, but I think what is at play is a society in which men are given a pass on just about everything.  Psychologists have recently talked about “delayed adolescence”—young men who have been allowed to dodge maturity and responsibility through high school, into college, and beyond.  Since others around them expect so little, young men are allowed to grow into adults who have little direction, are allowed to do what they want when they want, and are trapped in a pattern of boyish behavior that keeps them from developing the character and maturity that makes good husbands and fathers.  Even getting married and becoming fathers does not produce the maturity their spouse or parents hope to see—they continue to act as boys while married with children.  “Boys will be boys” is more than just a phrase—it has become a way of passing off immature behavior into adulthood.

Perhaps my assessment of manhood in our culture is too harsh, but I don’t think so.  I’ve seen enough, talked to enough women, and experienced enough of it myself to think the above paragraph is overstating the point.  80 years ago, men graduated high school in June and were fighting Nazis in Europe by October.  They came home at 22 years old, got jobs, got married, bought houses, and began families.  By their mid-twenties they were several years into a career and a family.  Today, only about 2/3 of 25-year-old males are even working full time!  What’s the cure?  There are no easy answers for this kind of societal issue, but I believe the Bible has a lot of help to offer in this area of manhood and becoming a man.  Issues like building moral character, developing discipline, understanding responsibility, and other values and qualities of becoming a man are found in the pages of Scripture.  Books like Proverbs, letters like Ephesians and James are just some starting points for these conversations.  Take heart!  I think the world will eventually have enough of the lack of manhood in our society.  When it does, we have the opportunity as believers to develop ourselves and our young men into the kind of people God would have us to be.  It starts with us.

                                                                                                                              Scott McFarland

Biblical Manhood, Biblical Womanhood

Twenty years ago, most of us probably did not stop to think much about what it meant to be a man or a woman.  The majority cultural values pretty well lined up with what the Bible taught on the subject, and only people on the fringes of society were questioning what it meant to be a man or what it meant to be a woman.  Fast forward to 2024 and here we are, questioning what it means to be male, what it means to be female, if you can be both, or if you have to be either one at all.  For those who lived the majority of their lives before this period of gender questioning, you probably think everyone has gone crazy!  And you’d be right.

Why is this?  Why are we questioning basic, foundational building blocks such as gender?  Why are we trying to redefine what it means to be a man or what it means to be a woman?  I believe it’s because we have lost sight of God’s created identity and become enamored with other identities and expressions of self.

Over the next few weeks, I’d like us to look at what the Bible says it means to be a man or a woman.  While the Bible was written in a different culture and time, the lessons it teaches about being a man or a woman are timeless.  Its lessons about the created intent for man and for woman are more relevant now than ever.  I don’t really have a creative title for this series, but please bring a friend and certainly bring yourself.  Let’s look at Scripture together and stop listening to the world and its definitions of gender and identity.  Let’s learn about Biblical Manhood, Biblical Womanhood together!

Wrestling with Self Forgiveness

Getting involved with other people helps us to forgive ourselves. God made

the church for many good reasons. One of them was so that we could encourage

one another. Of course, if we choose not to be involved with the church, we will receive little encouragement, and negative feelings of self-unforgiveness will creep back into our lives. Instead, we must practice Hebrews 3:13: “but exhort one another daily, while it is called ‘Today,’ lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.” We need daily encouragement. Being actively involved with the local body of Christ will give us that.

     God also foresaw that Christians would need a regular time to meet with other Christians. So, he had Jesus establish the Lord’s Supper to be observed every first day of the week. Acts 20:7 tells us that the church met on this day for this very purpose. In Hebrews 10:24-25, the Holy Spirit said, “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.” Christians need to be involved in the lives of other Christians. This is a great way to overcome self-unforgiveness.

      Finally, James 1:27 says, “Pure and undefiled religion before God and the

Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself un

spotted from the world.” You will never have a “bad day” visiting an orphan or a widow. They remind us of God’s grace and mercy. They create gratitude in our hearts. They keep us busy doing what God wants us to do instead of going back to the guilt of the world.

Kevin Cauley

New Boston Church of Christ

New Boston, TX

Awaiting the King’s Return

This weekend while at drill, we have to do our yearly physicals.  This is a day long event that involves being in Columbus at the exam facility at 6am and going all day to hit every doctor at every station: the dentist, the eye doctor, the lab techs for bloodwork, the medics for shots, the general physician, the chaplain, etc.  It’s a long day of standing in line and waiting with hundreds of other soldiers.

Am I complaining?  Maybe, a little.  I hate lines and I hate waiting.  But I was also thinking of the theme for today’s worship: “Awaiting the King’s Return.”  If you’re like most Christians, waiting for Jesus to come back is a bit like standing in a long line—it feels like it will never happen!  In the meantime, we get distracted and daydream to fill the time, or maybe we leave the line altogether.  If you’ve been a Christian most of your life, you’ve been doing this all your life and sometimes it feels like you’ll never see it.  But, we know that God does not measure time the way we do; II Peter 3:8 says that one day is like a thousand years to God.  So, while it feels like forever to us, it doesn’t to God.  We also know that God promises to return at some point!  He’s promised us so and told us to be ready.  In Matthew 25, Jesus tells two stories about being ready—the Parable of the Ten Virgins and the Parable of the Talents.  In the Parable of the Ten Virgins, most of the virgins lost a sense of urgency about the arrival of the bridegroom and left to go get more oil for their candles.  They weren’t prepared and because of it they missed the return of the bridegroom and the wedding feast.

Stories like the Parable of the Ten Virgins are cautionary tales about the dangers of not being ready.  It can happen at any moment—are you ready?  Are you losing focus or getting tired?  Are you prepared to go at a moment’s notice?  Keep watching!  One day, Jesus will return and our hopes will be seen.  In the meantime, don’t lose focus.  Keep waiting!

                                                                                                Scott McFarland

Single On Purpose

We’ve spent the last few weeks focusing on marriage, but I’d like to step back and think about our singles again this morning.  Because of the church’s focus on marriage, one of the main questions that arises for unmarried believers is, so what am I here for?  This is especially true if a person has spent significant time as a single and is beginning to wonder if singleness is not just a season but a calling for their life.  What’s the purpose of being single and how can singleness be used for something meaningful?

As we’ve discussed previously, the church has not done the best job in helping singles find purpose and meaning in being single.  Often, the advice to singles is marriage oriented—how to look for a mate, anticipating the future marriage, or being content in the moment while waiting.  While these attitudes are helpful for some, for those who may spend a significant amount of their life—or all of it—single, this does nothing for them.

This morning, we’ll look at some ideas from the life of Paul about how he found his purpose and calling while being single.  We’ll apply those principles to our own lives and seek to uncover a “singular purpose”—one that goes beyond marriage and looks at singleness not only as a gift, but as an intentional calling used for something great.

                                                                                   Scott McFarland

Enduring a Difficult Marriage

Throughout our “Living As You Are Called” series, we’ve talked about marriage in terms of ideals—what things SHOULD look like.  But, what about when they don’t?  And, what if someone finds themselves in a situation that looks like it may never be what it SHOULD be.  Well, in the opening words of Veggie Tales, “Have we got a show for you!”

Seriously, though, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this sermon over the years.  I realize that, as I talk about marriage, there are a significant number of people in our congregation that are living with less-than-ideal marriages and who may never get to experience the joy that marriage is and can be.  It’s not from lack of trying—they’ve tried for years to have a good marriage.  It’s not from lack of prayer—they’ve spent hours and hours on their knees asking God for better.  It’s simply because their spouse won’t move off whatever it is that makes things difficult, or won’t get help for their dysfunction, or isn’t interested in going to counseling, etc.  It’s out of this person’s hands.

What’s a person to do?  Should they just live that way?  Is there anything that can help, or does the Bible talk about it at all?  Actually, it does and yes, there may be some things that can help.  This morning, we’ll look at the story of Abigail in I Samuel 25, and the difficult marriage she was in before she got married to David.  We’ll look at the relationship between her and her husband and how Abigail dealt with this difficult person.  My hope and prayer is that it will give those of us in difficult marriages something to go off of to make things better.  I pray this is a blessing for all of those enduring a difficult marriage.

Scott McFarland

Holy Marriage | Leaving and Cleaving

The last couple times we have spoken of marriage in our series, we’ve talked about the importance of marriage as a way of producing holiness and the need for commitment (covenant) in marriage.  Today, I want to go back to our passage from Ephesians 5 and discuss one of the references Paul makes to something that should happen in a healthy marriage: leaving and cleaving.  “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Eph. 5:31)

When we think about “leaving and cleaving” in a marriage, we usually think about two people leaving their parents and homes where they grew up, finding a house or apartment to rent or buy, and starting their life together.  We think about all the things that need to come together—cars, bank accounts, schedules, furniture, etc.—the physical things that are a part of combining two lives.

What we don’t often think about are the nonphysical items that make up a marriage—things that, I would argue, are what makes a marriage really work.  These are the attitudes, the ways of living, the accommodations made for someone else.  This is what the Bible speaks of when it talks about leaving and cleaving.  The ironic thing is there are some people who have been married decades and have never done this.  Oh, they may have some shared physical possessions, but their attitudes, hearts, and ways of living are still very much separate. 

This morning, we’ll talk about what it means to “leave and cleave” and how this is such a crucial step to having a healthy marriage.  If you’re married, I hope and pray you will be blessed and challenged by our discussion in God’s word!

Scott McFarland

Married For Holiness

A few weeks ago, I introduced our “Living as You Are Called” series with a sermon questioning the purpose of marriage and why people get married.  Most people get married with the idea that it will or should make them happy, then become disappointed when this isn’t the immediate result.  I argued that marriage is actually designed to make us holy—to be made more in the image of God than we were before.  This morning, we’ll continue that thought and look at the covenant of marriage.  When we get married, we stand in front of a bunch of people and say a lot of seemingly ritualistic, traditional words: the vows, the ring ceremony, the “I dos.”  All of these, while steeped in tradition, are extremely purposeful.  There is an incredible amount of meaning behind the words being said—they aren’t just for pageantry!  Covenants like marriage ultimately reflect the kind of agreement God made with His people in the Bible.  I found the below explanation of a covenant helpful.  Modern society often misunderstands the ideas behind covenant.

In modern times we define a host of relations by contracts. These are usually for goods or services and for hard cash. The contract, formal or informal, helps to specify failure in these relationships. The Lord did not establish a contract with Israel or with the church. He created a covenant. There is a difference. Contacts are broken when one of the parties fails to keep his promise. If, let us say, a patient fails to keep an appointment with a doctor, the doctor is not obligated to call the house and inquire, "Where were you? Why didn't you show up for your appointment?" He simply goes on to his next patient and has his appointment secretary take note of the patient who failed to keep the appointment. The patient may find it harder the next time to see the doctor. He broke an informal contract. According to the Bible, however, the Lord asks: "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!" (Isaiah 49:15) The Bible indicates the covenant is more like the ties of a parent to her child than it is a doctor's appointment. If a child fails to show up for dinner, the parent's obligation, unlike the doctor's, isn't canceled. The parent finds out where the child is and makes sure he's cared for. One member's failure does not destroy the relationship. A covenant puts no conditions on faithfulness. It is the unconditional commitment to love and serve. —Bruce Shelley (https://www.sermonillustrations.com/a-z/c/covenant.htm)

Join us this morning as we look at the marriage covenant, and how our modern misunderstanding of covenant is part of our misunderstanding of the divine intention for marriage!

Scott McFarland

The Gift of Singleness

“Someday my prince will come…”  So goes the famous line in the song from Disney’s “Snow White.”  Before breaking out in song, Snow White describes her ideal prince—“there’s nobody like him anywhere at all.”  Disney does a great job at painting the picture of a beautiful, lonely, young girl who is waiting patiently for the perfect man—her prince—to come and sweep her off her feet.

But, what if the prince (or princess) never comes?  Is it so bad to spend a significant part of your life—maybe all of your life—single?  The movies and music of our culture would lead you to believe so.  Rarely do you hear anyone talk about the benefits of being single, especially in the church.

Look at what Scripture says about being single—it actually says quite a bit!  Paul says, about being single, “I wish that everyone was like me.” (I Cor. 7:7)  My hope and prayer for our time together this morning is that you will be empowered to live a single life, see it as a viable option, and gain hope for whatever the future might bring—prince or no prince!

Scott McFarland